This is How Your Marriage Ends

'The man who coaches husbands on how to avoid divorce' The New York TimesGood people can be bad partnersOne night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a phone-in-therapist's advice to 'journal his feelings,' Matthew Fray started a blog. As he tried to piece together how his ex-wife went from adoring to angry he realised that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a bad husband.From the raw, uncomfortable and darkly humorous stories he shared about the lessons he's learned from his failed marriage comes this strangely hopeful guide to saving relationships. This is How Your Marriage Ends offers immediately actionable advice to help readers identify toxic behaviour patterns in their own lives, and break them out of the cycles of dysfunction that ruin relationships. This is a must-read for people in any stage of a relationship, whether it's near the beginning or nearing the end. Good people can be bad partners - here's how to ensure that isn't you.

Fray's disarming personality and the sharing of his own story make people feel like they're not being judged ... His stark message: Don't end up like me * The New York Times * His insights into conflict, love and what he calls "the art of getting to tomorrow" have resonance for anyone who's ever had a broken heart - or labored to keep one from cracking -- Salon.com Funny and poignant ... a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love, and unpaid labor -- Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play An important book! Especially for men (hand raised for leaving dishes by the sink many times) ... Matt's approach is refreshing and much needed in our world. He shines two lights, a black light over why marriages fail but also sunlight by injecting hope and encouraging couples to take ownership -- John Kim, bestselling author of Single On Purpose Matt Fray bravely takes us on a tour of the male brain in relationships and how we can become our own worst enemy. By doing so, he reveals why we (men and women) get it wrong so often and what we can do to fix it ... entertaining, honest, and truly practical -- Justin Baldoni, bestselling author of Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity Matthew Fray's book - at turns sobering and inspiring, heartbreaking and hilarious - gets to the root of questions that can make or break a life partnership. Read it, heed it, act on it - for yourself and for the one you love -- Warren Berger, bestselling author of A More Beautiful Question Matt has a way of lacing truth with humour. He puts words to the human experience in a way that allows us to feel not only witnessed, but also to have hope rise from our all-too-common relational tragedies -- Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and Founder of Create the Love

Matthew Fray is a relationship coach and writer who leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and subsequent divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes. He has written for publications including the Sunday Times, Daily Mail and Sun and been featured in The New York Times and on BBC radio. His blog Must Be This Tall to Ride has a dedicated following, reaching millions of followers.

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