How to Ask for and Get What You Want

We’ve all experienced frustration asking for and getting what we want. It plays out regularly with our partners, children, employers, and businesses we patronize. Sometimes we don’t bother to ask for what we want, even when it’s perfectly reasonable, thinking it will create hard feelings or spark an argument. Often, it’s because we don’t think we can succeed in getting what we want. But nothing could be further from the truth.How to Ask for What You Want and Get It: Common Sense Tips That Work will help readers learn how to ask for what they want and get good results. It teaches them how to stay in the game by using the right words. It also shows how to build rapport by using positive body language. The more you know what makes people operate as they do, the better chance you’ll have of helping them see things your way. The most important aspect to negotiating anything is getting the other person on your side. That means the person you’re asking has to like and respect you enough to do what you want. Most of the advice in this book employs mindfulness techniques. The mindfulness movement helps people live in the moment, speak more effectively to one another, and settle problems peacefully.

Former teacher DePino lays out in this useful primer methods for securing a desirable outcome to negotiations. DePino's central tenet is that the most important aspect to negotiating is getting the other person on your side. Reading body language and tone--and learning how to use them to maximum effect through eye contact and "mirroring" another's body language to enhance rapport--is paramount, as is using "magic words" like please and thank you, the author notes. DePino also advises being concise when asking for something and phrasing statements in the first-person plural. After those basics, DePino provides real-world scenarios and suggestions for how to approach asking for and getting what one wants--such as during job applications, asking for help from friends, soliciting help for a child struggling in school, complaining to a restaurant's manager about an unsatisfactory meal, and staving off office gossips and bullies. DePino's tips and strategies make this a solid choice for those new to the negotiation table.-- "Publishers Weekly", Catherine DePino has put together an excellent book, chock-full of advice on how to negotiate the world with simple common-sense tips we all can use. She shares how to engage anyone in conversation using the dual power of curiosity and observation, how to make your point without being strident, and how to find the sweet spot between aggression and passivity when negotiating your needs. Whether you're a young person just finding your place in the world, or a well-seasoned veteran of life's slings and arrows, How to Ask for What You Want...has the information you need to succeed!--James Knipp, author, "Stuff Every Grandfather Should Know", I learned so much from Catherine DePino's new book How to Ask for What You Want and Get it: Common Sense Tips That Work. In many ways it reminded me of Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends And Influence People. DePino's book is full of important concepts and clear tips to make them work for you, along with compelling scenarios and witty dialogue. I can't imagine a single person who wouldn't benefit from this insightful book - I recommend it to literally everyone!--Elizabeth LaBan, bestselling author of five novels including "Not Perfect" and "Beside Herself"; see her website at elizabethlaban.com

Catherine DePino wrote seventeen books on many topics, including parenting, bullying, writing, women’s issues, and spirituality. She served as a high school teacher, department head, and college teacher and hold a doctorate from Temple University.