Boyslut

Now in paperback, a “refreshing. . . . accessible, engaging, and genuinely hilarious” (Buzzfeed) series of essays—part memoir, part manifesto—that explore coming-of-age and coming out as bisexual while moving toward embracing and celebrating sex without shameAs a boy, Zachary Zane sensed that all was not right when images of his therapist naked popped into his head. He sometimes imagined other people naked, too, and without an explanation why, a deep sense of shame pervaded these thoughts. Though his therapist assured him a little imagination was nothing to be ashamed of, over the years, society told him otherwise.Boyslut is a memoir-manifesto in which Zane articulates that, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex that they have and the sexualities that they inhabit. Through the lens of his bisexuality and much self-described sluttiness, Zane breaks down exactly how this sexual shame negatively impacts the sex and relationships in our lives, and through personal experience, shares how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us. From stories of play sessions with a neighbor at age six to the first explorations of Zane’s bisexuality in college, as well as sex-dungeon parties, orgies, and fun with butt plugs, Boyslutis reassuring and often painfully funny, and most potently, it is a testimony that we can all learn to live healthier lives unburdened by stigma.

From sharing how a sex toy saved his love life to detailing his polyamory journey, Zachary Zane, a sex columnist for Men's Health and Cosmopolitan US, has made his name in witty entries about his life. A self-described "memoir and manifesto" Zane pours his life lessons into easy, accessible essays, tackling subjects of bisexuality, STIs, sexual shame and much more. You'll put down Boyslut having learned a little more about the ways we discuss sexuality and, thanks to Zane's colourful anecdotes, enjoy some sex-positive storytelling. --Zoya Raza-Sheikh "GAY TIMES, THE 10 BEST LGBTQ+ BOOKS OF 2023", "[A] lively examination of all things sexual . . . His observations are lucid, fearlessly candid, informative, and, well, wise. This doesn't mean they are in any way didactic--they're always accessible, often funny, and, best of all, they leave the reader with the admonishment that "being kind doesn't cost you a dime." -- "Booklist", "Cocky, comic, and clearly heartfelt, Boyslut offers a vision of non-toxic modern masculinity that allows for all the quirks, kinks, and fetishes one's dirty mind desires." -- "Passport Magazine", "The author succeeds at candidly detailing and measuring the value of his sexual exploits . . . Zane provides an enlightening glossary of common and lesser-known sexual terminology . . . His emphatic discourses on erotic liberation, the misunderstood bisexual community, and overcoming sexual shame are credible and noteworthy." -- "Kirkus", "Zachary Zane . . . has written this refreshing collection of personal essays as an effort to get to the root of the sexual shame that runs rampant in American culture and help others lead more shame-free lives. Accessible, engaging, and genuinely hilarious, these essays are as titillating as they are educational." -- "Buzzfeed, Most Anticipated LGBTQ+ Book of 2023"

Zachary Zane is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men’s Health Best. Sex. Ever. He writes “Sexplain It,” the sex and relationship advice column at Men’s Health, and “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” the polyamorous relationship column at Cosmopolitan. He is editor-in-chief of the BOYSLUT Zine, which publishes nonfiction erotica from kinksters across the globe. His work has been featured in New York Times, Rolling Stone, Washington Post, Playboy, and more.