Is your child spending too much time playing video games? Or are your children begging you for screen time and you don't know how to help them establish healthy tech habits? Are games causing conflict and arguments? Whatever brings you here, I can help. How much should I let them play? How do I get them to be interested in anything else?!Video games and managing screen time are a modern parenting problem with no blueprint and a rapidly changing landscape. Harvard-trained psychiatrist and former gaming addict, Dr Alok Kanojia – Dr K to his millions of followers – offers a proven, tested plan to help parents define, set and reinforce healthy boundaries around screens and video games. From communication strategies and advice on dealing with behavioural issues to the neurological reasons behind why tech is so addictive, How to Raise a Healthy Gamer is essential for parents of children of all ages. Based on Dr K’s own experience with gaming addiction and his neuroscientific and psychiatric expertise, this is an accessible and engaging eight-week, step-by-step program covering how to react when your child becomes irritable, rude, or seemingly directionless around screens. Specific advice is also offered for parenting neurodiverse children, including those with ADHD and autism. Written to empower parents with knowledge and practical advice, this guide from the foremost expert on video game psychology provides skills, offers hope and sets out a clear road map to building healthy gaming habits that will equip your child for a fulfilling future.
CONTRIBUTORS: Dr Alok KanojiaEAN: 9781035025893COUNTRY: United KingdomPAGES: WEIGHT: 0 gHEIGHT: 234 cm
PUBLISHED BY: Pan MacmillanDATE PUBLISHED: 2024-03-14CITY: GENRE: GAMES & ACTIVITIES / Video & Mobile, GAMES & ACTIVITIES / eSports, PSYCHOLOGY / Developmental / Child, PSYCHOLOGY / Psychopathology / AddictionWIDTH: 153 cmSPINE:
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Addiction and therapy, Child care and upbringing: advice for parents, Hobbies, quizzes and games, Children’s / Teenage general interest: Computer and video games
Of all the questions parents ask me as a child psychiatrist, the most common one — by far — is how to handle their children’s use of screens. This groundbreaking instant classic of a book answers that question definitively. Clear, persuasive, and rooted in the most current research as well as the wisdom of the ages, How to Raise a Healthy Gamer is the book you’ve been looking for — not only for your child but for yourself as well!, In homes everywhere, negotiations around gaming are tiresome and heated. Dr. Kanojia’s approach allows your child to be part of the solution — a valuable component to both reducing the combativeness that often accompanies these negotiations and to staying in close relationship with them. I highly recommend this calm, structured, and nurturing approach to better and less screen use., Among the most important decisions we make about our parenting, screen use and — in particular — gaming will define our family. This groundbreaking book will give you what you need to come to an informed and sensible resolution that works for you. It’s a book that will give you the strength to live within your values and that will support your hope for a family that is deeply connected., Games of all types offer people of all types opportunities to learn, be excited, and grow. But when playing video games stops adding to your child's life and instead, starts taking away their relationships, opportunities, and overall well-being, you need Dr. Kanojia. Complete with scripts, milestones, rewards, and boundaries, this book will walk you through every step of the process to build an alliance with your child, helping them learn use their gaming strengths toward fulfillment in the world beyond their console.
Dr Kanojia, known widely as 'Dr K,' is the foremost expert on video game psychology as Instructor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, a private psychiatrist working with esports professionals, and the cofounder of Healthy Gamer. He has first-hand experience as an avid gamer, struggling with video game addiction as a teenager and young adult. Despite having loving parents who tried to help – they simply didn’t understand what they were dealing with – after two years of college, Alok was achieving grades far beneath his potential. There were simply no solutions, so he first traveled to India, where he embarked on a seven year journey to become a monk. After years of dedicated practice to understand the nature of desire and overcome his own addiction, Dr. K transitioned away from a spiritual life, conducting neuroscience research at Harvard Medical School for two years. He ultimately went to medical school at Tufts University School of Medicine, and completed his psychiatry training at Massachusetts General Hospital and McLean Hospital (Respectively the #1 and #2 top psychiatric hospitals in the US) and Harvard Medical School, where he continues to teach about video game addiction. After helping gamers in his clinical practice, Dr Kanojia started Healthy Gamer, an online digital mental health platform that helps gamers and parents achieve healthy video gaming habits.Dr K’s Healthy Gamer psychoeducational content reaches 3-5M people monthly on YouTube, and his Healthy Gamer Coaching program has helped nearly 10,000 people all over the world take control of their lives. Dr Kanojia’s Healthy Gamer programs have been proven to improve the parent-child relationship, improve mental health, and reduce addictive gaming. How to Raise a Healthy Gamer is a distillation of the most universal themes parents contend with combined with the most effective, most impactful practices from Dr Kanojia’s evidence-based programs.
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Is your child spending too much time playing video games? Or are your children begging you for screen time and you don't know how to help them establish healthy tech habits? Are games causing conflict and arguments? Whatever brings you here, I can help. How much should I let them play? How do I get them to be interested in anything else?!Video games and managing screen time are a modern parenting problem with no blueprint and a rapidly changing landscape. Harvard-trained psychiatrist and former gaming addict, Dr Alok Kanojia – Dr K to his millions of followers – offers a proven, tested plan to help parents define, set and reinforce healthy boundaries around screens and video games. From communication strategies and advice on dealing with behavioural issues to the neurological reasons behind why tech is so addictive, How to Raise a Healthy Gamer is essential for parents of children of all ages. Based on Dr K’s own experience with gaming addiction and his neuroscientific and psychiatric expertise, this is an accessible and engaging eight-week, step-by-step program covering how to react when your child becomes irritable, rude, or seemingly directionless around screens. Specific advice is also offered for parenting neurodiverse children, including those with ADHD and autism. Written to empower parents with knowledge and practical advice, this guide from the foremost expert on video game psychology provides skills, offers hope and sets out a clear road map to building healthy gaming habits that will equip your child for a fulfilling future.
CONTRIBUTORS: Dr Alok KanojiaEAN: 9781035025893COUNTRY: United KingdomPAGES: WEIGHT: 0 gHEIGHT: 234 cm
PUBLISHED BY: Pan MacmillanDATE PUBLISHED: 2024-03-14CITY: GENRE: GAMES & ACTIVITIES / Video & Mobile, GAMES & ACTIVITIES / eSports, PSYCHOLOGY / Developmental / Child, PSYCHOLOGY / Psychopathology / AddictionWIDTH: 153 cmSPINE:
Book Themes:
Addiction and therapy, Child care and upbringing: advice for parents, Hobbies, quizzes and games, Children’s / Teenage general interest: Computer and video games
Dr Kanojia, known widely as 'Dr K,' is the foremost expert on video game psychology as Instructor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, a private psychiatrist working with esports professionals, and the cofounder of Healthy Gamer. He has first-hand experience as an avid gamer, struggling with video game addiction as a teenager and young adult. Despite having loving parents who tried to help – they simply didn’t understand what they were dealing with – after two years of college, Alok was achieving grades far beneath his potential. There were simply no solutions, so he first traveled to India, where he embarked on a seven year journey to become a monk. After years of dedicated practice to understand the nature of desire and overcome his own addiction, Dr. K transitioned away from a spiritual life, conducting neuroscience research at Harvard Medical School for two years. He ultimately went to medical school at Tufts University School of Medicine, and completed his psychiatry training at Massachusetts General Hospital and McLean Hospital (Respectively the #1 and #2 top psychiatric hospitals in the US) and Harvard Medical School, where he continues to teach about video game addiction. After helping gamers in his clinical practice, Dr Kanojia started Healthy Gamer, an online digital mental health platform that helps gamers and parents achieve healthy video gaming habits.Dr K’s Healthy Gamer psychoeducational content reaches 3-5M people monthly on YouTube, and his Healthy Gamer Coaching program has helped nearly 10,000 people all over the world take control of their lives. Dr Kanojia’s Healthy Gamer programs have been proven to improve the parent-child relationship, improve mental health, and reduce addictive gaming. How to Raise a Healthy Gamer is a distillation of the most universal themes parents contend with combined with the most effective, most impactful practices from Dr Kanojia’s evidence-based programs.
As ek Mariette Wenhold se Myner van my hart in een woord moet opsom, sou ek sê dit is intens. Waarom sê ek so? Hoofsaaklik omdat die onverwerkte trauma waarmee Katarien Roos spook, veel erger is as dit wat mens normaalweg in ’n romanse teëkom. Ek het iets redelik aardskuddend begin vermoed toe sy nie by haar huis kan ingaan nie.
Haar volatiele geaardheid, wat ’n paar maal lei tot uitbarstings of onversetlike optrede, kan ook grotendeels toegeskryf word aan dit wat in haar verlede gebeur het en haar genoop het om Suid-Afrika te verlaat. Die skrywer gebruik hierdie element om deurentyd afwagting en spanning te skep deurdat die volle waarheid nie sommer vroeg in die storielyn onthul word nie.
Verder is die liefdestoneel ook nogal intens. Armand du Toit is ’n held waaroor menige romanseleser sal swymel. Hoewel Katarien haarself as “emosioneel onbeskikbaar” beskou (p.141) is hy presies die man wat sy nodig het om deur haar skanse te breek. Hy, en ’n predikant wat as berader optree.
Familiebande kry baie aandag in hierdie verhaal en die tienerseun laat mens sommer weer glo in die jeug. Tweede kanse, op enige ouderdom, laat ’n romantiese leser sommer goed slaap as jy die boek neersit.
Misverstande is volop in romantiese verhale. Dit gee vir ’n skrywer lekker materiaal om die storie mee te weef. Beslis só in Ballade van die liefde, die nuwe Romanza deur Mari Roberts.
Ons vind die hoofkarakter, Carli, in Botswana, waar sy werk by Die Park, ’n privaat wildtuin langs die Kgalagadi. Sommer uit die staanspoor is dit duidelik dat sy hier wegkruip, maar die wat en hoekom word nie sommer dadelik uitgelap nie. Daar is ’n lieflike dogtertjie betrokke en ’n oupa en ouma waarvoor sy baie lief is.
Die storielyn kry momentum wanneer ’n toergroep by die lodge aandoen en die rede vir haar jarelange wegkruipery, skielik voor haar staan. Mens wil aggressie te wagte wees, maar Ruben verras met vasberadenheid en geduld wat voortduur totdat al die misverstande opgeklaar is.
Die skrywer het goed daarin geslaag om spanning en afwagting te skep, en die gelukkige einde is besonder bevredigend. Knap gedaan, Mari.
'n Sterk vrou versus die intimiderende eienaar van die buurplaas
Cecilia Nortjé se nuwe Romanza, Maanskyn en brandewyn, voldoen aan al die vereistes vir ’n geslaagde romanse. Die held en heldin ontmoet vroeg in die storie, die vonke spat behoorlik, maar daar is dadelik ’n onderliggende aantrekking wat mettertyd al hoe duideliker manifesteer.
In pas met die moderne romanse is die heldin, Beatrix, of Trix of Bea, afhangende van watter hoed sy dra, ’n sterk vrou wat haar nie laat intimideer deur die eienaar van die buurplaas nie. Ray, wat die Landauer Distilleerders bedryf, is ook ’n goeie voorbeeld van ’n baie aantreklike romantiese held, kompleet met goeie maniere en ’n wens om Trix se plasie te bekom.
Dit is dan juis ook laasgenoemde visie wat die sluwe antagonis gebruik om onmin te bewerk tussen Trix en Ray. Nodeloos om te sê, is die sukses van Skye se plan van korte duur en seëvier die liefde.
Die verhaal van Tumelo se grootword en sy swaeltjie se herstel
Terwyl daar kosbare lewenslesse en leergeleenthede opgesluit is vir jongmense in ’n boek soos Die seun met die swaeltjie, is dit die onthou van lank gelede wat my met ’n intensiteit kom aanval het met die lees daarvan.
Ek is ’n produk van Johannesburg in die sestigs en sewentigs, daar gebore en grootgeword. Parkstasie en die Nelson Mandelabrug ken ek, en Hillbrow… Saam met jeuggroepe Vrydagaande daar gaan rondloop. Daarom het ’n ongelooflike hartseer my getref om saam met Tumelo en Dikeledi die groot stad, soos dit deesdae daar uit sien, te gaan ontdek.
Ons is almal bewus van die uitdagings van enkelouers van alle rasse, maar om die statistieke so swart op wit te sien, is ontnugterend. Verder is daar talle kinders, soos Tumelo en Dikeledi, wat nie een nie maar albei ouers verloor, een aan die dood, die ander aan hulpeloosheid. “Huise sonder ouers. En nou is hulle ook een.” (p.69 e-boek)
Die storielyn is veel meer as die verhaal van ’n swaeltjie wat liefdevol versorg word totdat sy herstel en weer kan vlieg. Dit is ook die grootword van Tumelo, wat nog tot op hede getwyfel het aan sy eie vermoëns. Daar is ’n oortuiging wat hom noop om sy pa te gaan soek: “Almal is besig om self te verdrink. Hier is soveel hartseer. Mense sonder werk. Swanger tieners. Drank. Inbrake. Huise sonder ouers.” (p.85 e-boek)
Die skrywer balanseer die swaar met ’n paar elemente wat mens opnuut laat glo in ubuntu, aan medemenslikheid. Soos ’n taxibestuurder wat kinders kosteloos laat saamry, bure wat omsien na mekaar.
Die seun met die swaeltjie is sopas aangewys as die wenner in die Lapa Jeugromankompetisie. Die teikengroep is jongmense van ongeveer 11jaar en ouer, maar beslis nie daartoe beperk nie. Baie geluk aan Fanie Viljoen met hierdie prestasie.
Neem 'n reis na die pragtige Skotland saam met Frances, wat soek vir heling
Sunet du Plessis is ’n indrukwekkende nuwe stem in Afrikaanse romans. Sy is wel deeglik onderlê in die taal en skryfkuns, weliswaar met artikels en kortverhale en gewapen met ’n BA in tale. Groete uit Skotland is haar debuutverhaal en wel in die geestelike fiksie genre.
Vergelyk jy die skrywer se biografie met dié van die fiktiewe karakters in die storie, is daar genoeg parallelle om te verseker dat die storielyn geloofwaardig is. Frances beleef ’n pynlike ontnugtering wat haar noop om Skotland toe te gaan, na waar haar oorlede ma se wortels lê. Die manlike hoofkarakter wat sy daar ontmoet, is ook ’n Suid-Afrikaner, ’n jong predikant met ’n groot trauma in sy verlede – die besonderhede waarvoor die leser moet wag tot byna aan die einde van die verhaal.
Een van die boublokke van die storielyn, is die kontroversiële kwessie van homoseksualiteit. Die skrywer hanteer dit sensitief sodat geen leser, wat jou oortuiging mag wees, sal aanstoot neem nie. ’n Verdere bousteen is die feit dat slegte dinge ook met goeie mense gebeur. Verhoudings wat op verskillende maniere uitgedaag word, is volop in die ryk storielyn.
‘n Beeld wat my bybly, is dié van skanse wat mense om hulself bou. “Ons kan nie die skanse wat mense om hulle bou met die geweld van ons oortuigings afbreek nie. Maar, ons kan oorstap en by hulle vuur gaan sit, na hulle luister en dáár wees vir hulle.” (p.182)
Groete uit Skotland is uitgegee deur Luca, die geestelike druknaam van Lapa Uitgewers.